Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Replacement Found!

I know calling our donor 'My Replacement' is cynical and a little crass but I'm ok with that......

Today, it's official! We actually have My Replacement and things are moving along. I thought I would be happier than I am. In fact - I've been thinking that this news would be the thing that finally moved me to excited. I'm happy but cautious - and unusually cynical.

We did find a great match, though. She matches my blood type, she's 5'10, blonde hair and green eyes with a degree. The doctor says she is very attractive but I'm assuming they tell everyone that.

I'm more concerned with the fact that I can not see a picture than I thought I would be. In the Czech Republic, all donors must remain anonymous and that prevents the doctor's from showing the donor's photo. I'm comparing this to adoption to feel better about it. If I were adopting I wouldn't know anything about the birth mother.....

That's the down-side to going abroad for donor egg. The information you get about your donor is not as comprehensive and detailed as I would have gotten with my clinic here. Is that information worth $20,000. What a price tag for a photo and a list of hobbies, huh?

So - all in all I suppose I am happy that we have moved onto the next phase. I've never been this cynical before - normally I'm fussing at my husband for being that person. Maybe it's not as much cynicism as it is self-protection........

2 comments:

kristylynne said...

Yes, you have hit on my one big sticking point with DE in the Czech Republic. I would do it in a heartbeat except for the fact that I would not get to pick our donor. On the other hand, I've found looking at photos of donors here in the U.S. to be totally off-putting. I guess I'm looking for ME, and of course, there's only one me. So maybe it's better to leave the choice to the doc? Can you tell I'm waffling here?
Regardless, congratulations on this next big step.

Kami said...

My clinic here in the US not only doesn't show you a picture, but they match the donor for you as well - so there is not choice. I found my own donor because of this.

All different paths to hopefully a positive result. Congrats on getting matched and being one step closer.